Parents need to have close relations with their kids, but most wonder if that is even promising as their once loving, sweet, cuddly kid enters adolescence. Abruptly, your son starts to back talk more and favors to expend time with peers than expending time with the relatives.

While frightening for parents, the regular individualization procedure during the teen years does not have to engross hard feelings and power struggles if parents evade following three general parenting mistakes:

1. Too much "directing, ordering and correcting": No one needs to be bossed around and "ordering, directing and correcting" is a certain way to get your teen to shut down and boosts his or her likelihood of not listening to you. Parents would not correct, order and direct friends or co-workers, yet most will bark orders in an endeavor to demand obedience from kids. If we anticipate kids to reverence parents, parents have to respond with courteous communication.

2. Exerting too much control: Part of the typical development procedure for teens is to separate from us - but that raises fear in most parents and they react by "clamping down." Instead of respecting the kid’s require for superior independence - parents try to wield more control, which raises power struggles.

3. Not being on their team- Most teens sense that their parents are against them - not with them. When parents order, correct and direct too much, grill them about every small thing, or try to put forth too much control - it calls power struggles, not listening and back talk and strengthens the feeling that we are against them. When teens sense that parents are on their team, they’re more expected to communicate openly and honestly and may in fact wish to expend time with the family.